PASTORAL WORD REGARDING PRESIDENT OBAMA’S
SUPPORT OF THE CONCEPT OF “SAME SEX MARRIAGE”
Introductory statement:
Someone has said that one should never begin a statement with a negative
or a preconceived or foregone conclusion. That notwithstanding let me say at the outset
that during this pastoral word I will probably say some things that will be offensive to
some and hard to hear to others. However I trust that you will hear me out.
As the world is aware, this past week the 44th president of these United States
States, Mr. Barak Hussein Obama expressed his personal belief and support for the
“concept of same sex marriage.” He indicated that his wife Michelle was in agreement
with in his stance. Let me make it perfectly clear, I admire and respect both President
and Mrs. Obama. I admire them as a couple, and that while I agree with much of what he
says and stands for, on this matter I believe they are wrong. I do not take the Obamas’
struggle with the “concept of same sex marriage” lightly nor the political risk that he took
by taking that stand. I also must admit that my heart goes out to those who are genuinely
in love with those of the same gender. Some of those individuals and/or couples are close
personal friends and members of my own family. I do not deny or love them less because
we are not in agreement on all issues in life.
With all of that said, I must reject the “concept of same sex marriage.” I keep
using the term “concept of same sex marriage” because for me marriage is a relationship
between a man and a woman, as defined by scripture. Consenting adults of the same
gender may live together and have their lifestyle legally legitimated and socially accepted
through civil unions. However one can have legal rights and find social acceptance and
still be out of sync with and disobedient to scripture. As a preacher of the Gospel of our
Lord Jesus Christ, the primary lens and authority through which I view life with all of its
myriad issues is scripture. Sola scriptura was a primary foundational belief of the
Protestant Reformation and remains as a pillar of Protestantism and my own life today.
Before reaching any life decision or forming any social or political stance my first
question must always be, “Is there any word from the Lord” either expressly written or
divinely revealed or affirmed, embodied or postulated by the Lord Jesus Christ, the
incarnate Word made flesh?
While there are many grey ethical and personal areas regarding which scripture
has no definitive word, such is not the case with either same gender or different gender
sexuality. While it is true that the New Testament fulfills and lays aside some of the
prohibitions of the Jewish Bible, that we know as the Old Testament, when it comes to
both homosexual and heterosexual relationships, the whole of the Bible speaks with one
voice and one perspective. Neither homosexuality as a lifestyle nor sex outside of the
marriage bonds for heterosexuals are affirmed or supported anywhere in scripture.
Individual love that does not fall within the teachings of scripture, though it may
be real and powerful, cannot be the measuring rod for biblical truth. Just because
someone is in love does not mean that love is scripturally acceptable or appropriate, even
when it has legal sanction, social acceptance or personal fulfillment. There is such a
thing as illicit love as defined and understood by scripture.
I recognize that there are many sincere, saved, and committed Christians who
disagree with my position. In other words, this pastoral statement is not an attempt to
demonize either homosexuals or heterosexuals who have different views than those I hold
or the biblical truth that the Holy Spirit inspires me to teach and proclaim. Christians
disagree on this issue as we have disagreed on so many others such as abortion, capital
punishment, pacifism and nonviolence, stem cell research as well as the meaning of
baptism, the Eucharist (Holy Communion) and ministry. In these areas we have learned
to live and respect each other with our differences as we serve as best we can our
common Lord and live out the implications of our faith being guided by the Holy Spirit
as the Holy Spirit speaks to us.
Judges 21: 25 says, “In those days there was no king in Israel; all people did what was right in their own eyes.” We are not living in the Book of Judges where the
measurement of morality can be based upon what looks right in our own eyes or what
feels right and may be pleasurable to our own bodies. Those of us who are Christians
have a King over our lives whom we know to be Savior and Lord. As I have pondered,
reflected and prayed over this issue, I am not convinced that the Lord Jesus Christ affirms
or supports the concept of same sex marriage. Even though he may love us with an
unspeakable love, I am not convinced that the Lord Jesus Christ, the sinless Prince of
Glory who alone is righteous enough to redeem us from sin, acknowledges, supports or
accepts the concept of same sex marriage.
I am also convinced however, that Jesus would want us to handle our
disagreements without demonization, as we respect the humanity, dignity, and prayerful
soul-searching of those with whom we disagree. I am ABSOLUTLEY convinced that
Jesus loves us, one and all, no matter what our sexual preference may be. The Lord Jesus
is able to love us even when he disapproves of our choices and our lifestyles that offend
and grieve him because he understands that we are more than our gender or our sexual or
love preferences.
As human beings who are created in the image of God, we are more than our
respective genders. We are more than a single-issue entity. That is the reason that I
continue to admire and respect President and Mrs. Obama even though I disagree with
them on the “concept of same sex marriage.” This issue is not a deal breaker for me and
neither is sexual preference in and of itself a deal breaker for me regarding other people.
Neither do I believe that it is a deal-breaker for the Lord Jesus Christ. He saves to the
utmost both homosexuals and heterosexuals who are sexual inappropriate according to a
traditional understanding of the word of God.
We must never forget that beyond gender, attributes such as honesty, integrity and
character also define who we really are. Our values and our first love, which should
always go beyond any human being, define who we really are. Beyond gender
designations we are first and foremost children of God with a myriad of imperfections
and unresolved issues, whom the Lord Jesus receives just as we are and seeks to grow us
and transform into a closer image of who he is, however he looks and whoever we are.
Therefore, in the spirit of the Lord Jesus Christ who is able to make all things and
all persons new, this church and ministry is open to any and everyone irrespective of
differences in ethnicity, gender, sexual preference, age, class, education or physical
condition. To members of this church who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or trans-gender, as
your pastor let me say to you that I affirm your humanity and place in the kingdom as
well as your struggles alongside the rest of us who struggle with other and different
issues. I want you to stay, do not leave, and work out your soul salvation with a pastor
and a people who love you.
All are welcomed to join the rest of us who are seeking to walk in the vision God
has for all of our lives that is greater than any vision we can have for ourselves or that
others can have for us, no matter what our differences, unresolved issues or weights or
sins may be. Thus we end this short pastoral word by saying what we preachers have
said for centuries, “Whosoever will let him or her, whosoever will let them come.”
Peace,
William D. Watley,
Senior Pastor